December 2, 2015

Sad days

Sad to hear about the shootings in Sam Bernardino.  This is a tragedy.  Of course this has already been turned into a political event asking for more laws. We must first as a country enforce our current laws. Because adding more laws just means we will enforce those laws less if at all.
I only ask that as a country, that we ask our politicians to enforce our current gun and immigration laws.
Then if truly we need better gun laws and immigration reform we will know better of what is really needed.
What we also need is the laws of this country to be simplified. We need the laws designed so that the average person can quickly understand them without needing to have a business, law, medical, financial and engineering degrees to have any clue what is going on.

May 29, 2015

Missing the one that left.

I have been thinking a lot recently about my ex wife. Being an ex husband is something I never wanted to be. 
Communication on both sides was our biggest fault. Both for different reasons, but neither a good explanation for why we are where we are.
I was angry and frustrated when she said she wanted to separate.  I had gone through many personal issues that I was trying to overcome.  I was getting better and being a better man.
But now I find myself nearly two years later still thinking of her every day. I think very fondly of her even though I know all her faults. I still want to talk to her and see her every day. But I have not heard back from her nor do I expect to hear from ever again.
I write in this because I know very few or if anyone ever reads it anyway.  I also just don't want to hear again how I should move on and get over her. But I also want to vent. I need to let this silently but publicly out.
I do miss her. I would take her back in a heartbeat.  I have girls I currently talk to that I would cut off all contact with if she wanted to be with me and only me again. But do I honestly think that will happen? No. She has moved on and I am the one who has not. Sure I have dated. Sure I have done things with friends and family since then that I have found joy in life. But that does not mean that she has ever left my thoughts or heart, no.
But life is not fair. Not only does life make things hard. We as people make things even harder on ourselves and others. We do selfish things. I did that and she did. We give up so easily on things that mean the world to us. This only makes us sad.
I don't want to be sad. I want to be happy. I am going to do the things I know I need to do to be happy and that does not always include others getting their way. I don't need to be selfish, but I need to stop being a push over and so dependant on others.

June 22, 2014

You are who you are.

I am going to try to tackle a difficult topic. It is a big social issue that many try to understand but many do not. Many try to make excuses or exceptions to the rules to justify what they have done or are doing.

But first I would like to go after what the world expects of us and what is fair and what is not. Many of us are born with a personality all our own. But because of the world we are expected to act a certain way. This may be that only girls play with dolls and boys play sports. But It goes deeper than that in many ways. Not all boys have to be ruff and rugged or need to fit a specific roll. This goes the same for a girl. They do not have to be dainty little princesses. The World has pushed this expectation upon us. The likes and dislikes of children can vary greatly and to children it does not matter, they are just having fun. But because of the way we as parents and adults have lived we see it in other ways and try to assign that child into a class of people. We do not see them as individuals but as a collective group. Some parents fight this grouping way too much and end up pushing the child away. Others encourage it way to much thinking they are being supportive. It is the social stereo types that we as people have grown up with.
 Of course as parents we are to teach our children. Otherwise some children might not make it past the age of two. But what we are suppose to teach them is about common knowledge of the world around us. Fire burns, Ice freezes, falls hurt, But we should refrain on putting extras into our teaching. If we push someone in a general direction we are teaching them our habits and not letting them create their own. But for us that is the hardest thing to do. We want to pass on our knowledge, this is natural and in many ways I encourage it. But we have to limit it to the right time and moments in all situations.
   Next I would like to tackle the topic of love. This is something the world has very much corrupted. More importantly we all hear the word "Love" and we automatically think of something. The world expects us to think of sex when we hear about love. and it Pushes that on us with commercials and ads in magazines, Freeway signs, TV, the internet and more. The world does not want us to think of love without the word sex attached to it. Sure other ideas are allowed in. But the world tells us that love does not exist without sex. This is false, as any parent of a new born child will tell you. But the world tells us that if we love someone then we must want to have sex with them also. This once again is false. But causes many issues for people in their lives.
  Next would be what many call sins. I more importantly want to call out vanity, greed and selfishness. Many of us would argue that we do not have these faults. or we have not made decisions off of these faults in human nature. This I would also have to say is false. Many religious people have made decisions based off of these traits and wars have come from it. They are the bain of society and religion. Many people blame religion for what was actually caused by these sins. We are told to stay away from sinning because truthfully only bad will come from it.
   Now onto my main topic. gender and sexual assignment. yes I am wrapping the two together because they come from the same place. They are created by a society that does not understand. They are created by a world that assigns people to a mold because as a child they did something. they are created by sin, because of the vanity, greed and selfishness of the world. Now they are not doing anything wrong as they see it. They are being exactly what the world has told them that they are. But they perpetuate the issue with saying that nature made them this way or that nature made a mistake. They let sin run their lives. Of course they do not like me saying sin because I am now suppose to worry about their feelings. But that is the truth of it.
But they did not do this all themselves. This comes from sins of generations. We allow little seeds of sin into our thoughts on a daily basis. Sins are tempting to us. they make many promises to us of great things. But they do not tell us bout the heart ache that will come from it.
 But also many gender and sexual assignment people say they are not happy. It is because they have not been taught what happiness is. So they search for it. this is not a bad thing that they are searching. Many religious people have failed and many religions have failed to do the right thing and show compassion and love. These two things are what people need. But sadly many find anger coming from those of religion. So they run into the hands of someone that will accept them. Someone that will not tell them no. They are told that sex is natural and that humans are sexual creatures. I cannot argue with this. But then the lie seeps in. The mold of the group that has been created by sin. The vanity, greed and selfishness. where they are told they will not be happy unless they...
    This has been now seeped into areas it previously was not. more importantly it has seeped into the core of human nature, The family. The world has been turned upside down by these things. Family values in a worldly manner has changed. This will ultimately fail but not until after irreparable damage has been done. For the world we cannot stop this from happening. But for our families we have a chance. We have to fight the bad coming in and teach good basic principles.
This ultimately veered from what I had originally intended for this post. But ultimately I believe that it has gone to a better place. the place were true good change can happen.

February 11, 2014

A smart man admits he knows nothing.

I have been thinking a lot recently about the reprocusions of what we do. You see the results of others decisions through out history. we have had wars because of poor choices and saved lives because of well thought out ones.
What I have noticed is that much of the world. But from my view point America does not take into account the full reprocusions of a decision. We fight for things because we think the world has to be fair. This is not how things work. This is not how the world work. This is not how the universe works. Are you going to complain that there is no air in space and that it is so cold that you have to wear a special suit. Or are you going to accept that this is how things work.
When you look at the how the native americans reacted during war or even during the hunt it was not a joke or purly about personal and individual gain. It was about family and protecting the land. There was no political correctness to keep them from hurting someones feelings. it was always about respecting the earth. Even during the Hunt the native Americans gave thanks to the animal for giving its life.
As a world we do not understand that anymore. There are specific groups that still understand this to a point. But for us to become greater we need to work to respect the earth and more. No this does not mean we have to be hippies. But it does mean we need to take a wider view of what our choices make happen. You sneezing could easily be what triggers the next hurricane that kills thousands. Now this is not something that you can know for sure with our current knowledge. Maybe we will never know. But things like doing things to make a dollar. Why? What does money mean in the whole scheme of things. What are you doing to make things better. Are you making decisions based on making a quick buck or are you making decisions that will make the world a better place not only for you but for many generations to come.
This is where I will get political. Does our current American government have our long term interests in mind. In some cases, Yes, but in most cases No. We encourage people to do very little with thier lives. We should support our own in times of need. But we need to ket them provide for themselves.
The anchient proverb of give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Our current mentality does not support teaching a man to fish. Even our current educational system fails horribly at this. We do not teach for all the different personalities. We do not take into account all the different kinds of people. Yet they charge all sorts of amounts that drive people into uncontrollable and unessicary debt. Schools provide information you can get for free in many other places if not just a whole :ot cheaper. Then they charge thousands of dollars for your fishing licence after you already bought all the fishing equipment and in many cases you had to teach yourself since the teacher was not there or just didnt care.
We need to change our view of the world and universe. We need to take others into account. Not because of hurt feelings and political correctness. But because it is the best for all of us.

February 7, 2014

America the not so great country anymore.

When I was growing up I always heard how great America my homeland was. I always believed this when I was younger. We had our greatest generation that not only lived during 2 world wars. But they also survived the great depression. We also have the baby boomers that have made our countrys econamy so strong during the 80's and 90's. But even though we have made great progress in technology. We have not kept pace with the rest of the world. We have failed our children. We have been self serving and greedy. We have lost touch with the world and our country.
Politicians seems to fight over who is more in touch with which group. Just today CNN pushed that the GOP is not in touch with wemon needs. Have we ever thought that the wemon are not in touch with what a woman should be. Have we lost the truth of what a family should be. Have we lost in this country what a father and mother should be. We have gays fighting for the right to marry. When this country is going down in every bracket that is tested. Why are we listening to these arguments that only cause contention.
I will tell you why. Greed, selfishness, arrogance, ignorance, etc.
If we want this country to become great again. We need have a mentality shift. We need to chnge on our wants and concentrate on our needs. This is something for the past year I have been trying to change. Some have supported me, others do not want to say I am making the right choices. But at the same time they admit they have seen my growth in good ways.
As a country we need to change. We need to vote those into government that will fight to make this country great. Give us chances to make our lives better and not say we all are the same. Some people just work harder and smarter. We need to stop voting for those or even giving power to those that are only willing to say things that they never intend to do. That only give us words to get us excited and leave us flat. We need to stop asking others to do things for us. We need to do things for ourselves.

May 29, 2013

Hate on the other side

All the rage now is for the Gay and Lesbien communities and the media to attack conservatives. They say that if you do not support gay marriage then you are a hater. This is not so and is only good for seperating this country more.
Sure there are people on both sides that have over reacted. More cmmonly known is the unwarrented attacks on homosexual individuals. This is an over reaction to someones lifestyle. This reaction should never be condoned from either side. It only hurts the human condition which is sorly beaten at this moment because of the many soscial issues that are being pushed.
 But as I stand I do not support gay marriage. I do not hate or despise gay people. I have and do know many and besides the one aspect of thier lives I have found them to be on the most part wonderful people. I love the person and hate the sin.
Many now do not understand how I could be so cruel to gays because I do not support thier cause for gay marriage. Well to get this straight I do not support gay relationships, gay sex, or gay anger rants. I do not appreciate being called a biggot, hater, or fox news following redneck. You are not smarter thn me. You are not more enlightened because of your views. I have a right to my views just like you do and I have every right to follow them the way I know to be right.
I do not want to hear your rants on how this is how people are born. Yes sure a small percentage of people are born with homosexual tendencies. but a majority of people comming out now are only using it as a way to get attention. This once again does not help acceptance on either side. This only cause frustration and anger. The many people that come out as gay then just show anger. Rosie odonnel is one of these angry gays. That was a wonderful and sweet person before that was a fun celebrity to watch. Now she is a bitter old maid that has lost half her folliwing if not more but has gained a following of either other angry gays or a liberal group that is wanting to tear down conservatives like myself.
The Gay agenda is a black eye on this country. It is not because of people being gay. But because of the anger and hatred that has come from both sides. Both just as brutal. With many anti gay groups willing to hit someone. While the liberals and gays have used this as a way to attack conservatives just like a teenage girl will fight. With just enough truth to make the lie seem real.

January 27, 2013

Gun Control?

One of the hot button topics right now is gun control. I should disclose that I am currently a range designer for a large range design and targetry company. I do not personally own a gun but I do not have a problem with a responsible adult owning one.

The bog argument right now on the capital is that we get rid of assault weapons. This is a knee jerk reaction to some more recent and sad shootings around the country. Now of course all the gun toting nut balls are going to come out and defend their right to have guns in their home. In this case I believe that they are right. Although they are not always the most eloquent in how they make their arguments.

Of course you also have all the other nut balls on the other side of the gun control fence come out during these arguments also. Usually they are the liberals that have to stay hidden in the shadows because of their unpopular extreme views. But in either case we see both of the bad people on both sides of the isle come out during these big gun control debates.

Here is my argument. We go and blame guns for these violent crimes that are committed. We do not blame society ever, we only shortly lay focus on the person that actually committed the crime. and we jump right to the gun being the culprit. This is a flaw in our thinking as a society. We jump right to the final second of the whole crime. Usually our view is much much wider. But when a gun is involved we blame the tool not the person. If in many of these cases people had been shot with a crossbow or even blown up with a bomb we would be looking for the group that made the bomb or blame the person that shot the crossbow. But not so in the case of the gun. We get so intensely focused on guns that we push everything else aside.  

But that brings up another point. If we did not have access to guns, criminals would find other ways, many times even more horrific ways to kill someone. I will not name any more types of tools used for murder but I am sure many of you can think of one or more right off the top of your head. All of them easily accessible for your standard psychopath or angry child. If you take away guns something else will be found.

Now I do not have every answer. we cannot stop every criminal from doing something that hurts us. just as in day to day life you cannot make others decisions for them even though we so want to. But do we really want to take on someone else s problems? I know all my problems and I do not need to take on more or even would be able to handle more. But what we can do is be better people ourselves. we can be better examples to all of those around us and learn the good of everything. not just your side or point of view. but everything. Then we can share with others our knowledge and they have the choice to take it or not into their lives.

How many times have we got mad at someone for something simple. someone cuts you off in traffic. we get upset or mad at family members all the time. life is not easy nor is it on rails. we have to make choices and we flow all over the place while we are doing it. "Paying it forward" is our best option. doing something for others. If you hate guns but have never shot a gun before. Go to a shooting range and try it. (yes you might just be supporting me in my job.) but you will also learn something about guns and gun enthusiasts. that you might not have know before.

As for "Gun Control" it begins in the home. It is taught by parents to their children. Respect a gun. Lock up the gun. Use the gun for protection of others. A good gun owner is someone that not only likes to shoot a gun but also knows how to take care of that gun as it is a very powerful tool of both good and bad.

Gun control is not for the federal government. If you can't pass a budget of any sort and you still think you deserve a raise. You should not be in control of many things. Gun control is one of them. Our federal government along with many others have lost sight of how we can be great and decided to look at little pointless things that do little to nothing for us as a country in the long run.

Gun control and limitations do not help this country. guns are the end of the line to a long string of events. We need to go deeper into our issues as a country. We need to find why this country cannot get along and why everyone is getting so angry. Intolerance, anger, greed, ignorance, etc. are problems we need to be facing. when we fix those guns will stop being the problem.