January 18, 2016

Extremes are bad.

I have always said extremes are bad for society.  Internet is great, but now many including myself can be addicted. 
It is good to have a budget. But to be so strict, you will never have a way to enjoy life and those around you.
Having a political standing is a good thing. But to think everyone should think the same as you is wrong, and going deeper and deeper into your political beliefs is just a bad plan.

Being religious and wanting to be a better person is a great goal. This can be wonderful for you and those around you. But as a religious person you have to fight the urge to judge both yourself and others. You have to fight the urge to expect others to be at the same type of life you live.

Wanting life to be easier and wanting to be accepted can be a good thing. But when you tell people others they are rude and wrong because they do not agree with your selfish desires. That is your issue and not thiers.

This world is not meant for your selfish desires.
This world is meant for us to improve the life of our children. 
When all you care about is if you get to love who you want or that you get to sleep with whom every you want. You are being selfish and only making this world worse.

January 8, 2016

Why do we easily accept the dark side?

So I notice how many people talk about going to the dark side.
Do you know this is for people that show hate, have anger, lie, cheat, steal. Basically all the people you complain about? Yet for some reason you think it is better than the light?
You think because they offer cookies or some other treat that they are better? Once again did you know they lie cheat or steal?
You think Darth Vader is cool. Well did you know he was a lier, Mass killer, among other things. Did you realize anger and distrust was something he caused himself and then blamed on others so that he did not have to admit to his own failures? Did you know that he always regretted those decisions and wished he stayed in the light.
Do you realize that all he wanted was a family but because of many of his choices, his children could never trust him. So he could never know that joy.
Yet you still want to go to the dark side or think the dark side is better?
Do you think Darth Vader was treated poorly? Why is it that everyone else could handle it but Darth Vader could not? Do you think the emperor was truly a happy man. No they were neither happy or honest with anyone.
Why are we so obsessed with evil things when we hate evil things so much? Are we that self destructive?

December 22, 2015

I cannot support a political party anymore.

As I have grown in both machurity and calmness I have come to the point where I cannot support one party or individuals. 
Sure I still consider myself a conservative. But I will not go further into being a Republican, tea party member,  or libertarian.  I cannot identify with them. But I agree with many of their ideals much of the time.
I do not support the liberal society.  But I can appreciate a few of their ideas. I believe they are a caring group.

But I believe many on both sides are misguided.  Many of them will fight with each other over something they agree 90% on. But they hate eachother over that 10%  and I am tired of the useless fighting.

What I want is more understanding and less demanding.  What I want is to take the true needs of both sides and the true strengths of both side and find a way to make those happen.
I want to stop the fighting and pointing fingers over who did it wrong or better. I want to stop looking for faults. I want to not look for the negative in everything.

December 2, 2015

Sad days

Sad to hear about the shootings in Sam Bernardino.  This is a tragedy.  Of course this has already been turned into a political event asking for more laws. We must first as a country enforce our current laws. Because adding more laws just means we will enforce those laws less if at all.
I only ask that as a country, that we ask our politicians to enforce our current gun and immigration laws.
Then if truly we need better gun laws and immigration reform we will know better of what is really needed.
What we also need is the laws of this country to be simplified. We need the laws designed so that the average person can quickly understand them without needing to have a business, law, medical, financial and engineering degrees to have any clue what is going on.

May 29, 2015

Missing the one that left.

I have been thinking a lot recently about my ex wife. Being an ex husband is something I never wanted to be. 
Communication on both sides was our biggest fault. Both for different reasons, but neither a good explanation for why we are where we are.
I was angry and frustrated when she said she wanted to separate.  I had gone through many personal issues that I was trying to overcome.  I was getting better and being a better man.
But now I find myself nearly two years later still thinking of her every day. I think very fondly of her even though I know all her faults. I still want to talk to her and see her every day. But I have not heard back from her nor do I expect to hear from ever again.
I write in this because I know very few or if anyone ever reads it anyway.  I also just don't want to hear again how I should move on and get over her. But I also want to vent. I need to let this silently but publicly out.
I do miss her. I would take her back in a heartbeat.  I have girls I currently talk to that I would cut off all contact with if she wanted to be with me and only me again. But do I honestly think that will happen? No. She has moved on and I am the one who has not. Sure I have dated. Sure I have done things with friends and family since then that I have found joy in life. But that does not mean that she has ever left my thoughts or heart, no.
But life is not fair. Not only does life make things hard. We as people make things even harder on ourselves and others. We do selfish things. I did that and she did. We give up so easily on things that mean the world to us. This only makes us sad.
I don't want to be sad. I want to be happy. I am going to do the things I know I need to do to be happy and that does not always include others getting their way. I don't need to be selfish, but I need to stop being a push over and so dependant on others.

June 22, 2014

You are who you are.

I am going to try to tackle a difficult topic. It is a big social issue that many try to understand but many do not. Many try to make excuses or exceptions to the rules to justify what they have done or are doing.

But first I would like to go after what the world expects of us and what is fair and what is not. Many of us are born with a personality all our own. But because of the world we are expected to act a certain way. This may be that only girls play with dolls and boys play sports. But It goes deeper than that in many ways. Not all boys have to be ruff and rugged or need to fit a specific roll. This goes the same for a girl. They do not have to be dainty little princesses. The World has pushed this expectation upon us. The likes and dislikes of children can vary greatly and to children it does not matter, they are just having fun. But because of the way we as parents and adults have lived we see it in other ways and try to assign that child into a class of people. We do not see them as individuals but as a collective group. Some parents fight this grouping way too much and end up pushing the child away. Others encourage it way to much thinking they are being supportive. It is the social stereo types that we as people have grown up with.
 Of course as parents we are to teach our children. Otherwise some children might not make it past the age of two. But what we are suppose to teach them is about common knowledge of the world around us. Fire burns, Ice freezes, falls hurt, But we should refrain on putting extras into our teaching. If we push someone in a general direction we are teaching them our habits and not letting them create their own. But for us that is the hardest thing to do. We want to pass on our knowledge, this is natural and in many ways I encourage it. But we have to limit it to the right time and moments in all situations.
   Next I would like to tackle the topic of love. This is something the world has very much corrupted. More importantly we all hear the word "Love" and we automatically think of something. The world expects us to think of sex when we hear about love. and it Pushes that on us with commercials and ads in magazines, Freeway signs, TV, the internet and more. The world does not want us to think of love without the word sex attached to it. Sure other ideas are allowed in. But the world tells us that love does not exist without sex. This is false, as any parent of a new born child will tell you. But the world tells us that if we love someone then we must want to have sex with them also. This once again is false. But causes many issues for people in their lives.
  Next would be what many call sins. I more importantly want to call out vanity, greed and selfishness. Many of us would argue that we do not have these faults. or we have not made decisions off of these faults in human nature. This I would also have to say is false. Many religious people have made decisions based off of these traits and wars have come from it. They are the bain of society and religion. Many people blame religion for what was actually caused by these sins. We are told to stay away from sinning because truthfully only bad will come from it.
   Now onto my main topic. gender and sexual assignment. yes I am wrapping the two together because they come from the same place. They are created by a society that does not understand. They are created by a world that assigns people to a mold because as a child they did something. they are created by sin, because of the vanity, greed and selfishness of the world. Now they are not doing anything wrong as they see it. They are being exactly what the world has told them that they are. But they perpetuate the issue with saying that nature made them this way or that nature made a mistake. They let sin run their lives. Of course they do not like me saying sin because I am now suppose to worry about their feelings. But that is the truth of it.
But they did not do this all themselves. This comes from sins of generations. We allow little seeds of sin into our thoughts on a daily basis. Sins are tempting to us. they make many promises to us of great things. But they do not tell us bout the heart ache that will come from it.
 But also many gender and sexual assignment people say they are not happy. It is because they have not been taught what happiness is. So they search for it. this is not a bad thing that they are searching. Many religious people have failed and many religions have failed to do the right thing and show compassion and love. These two things are what people need. But sadly many find anger coming from those of religion. So they run into the hands of someone that will accept them. Someone that will not tell them no. They are told that sex is natural and that humans are sexual creatures. I cannot argue with this. But then the lie seeps in. The mold of the group that has been created by sin. The vanity, greed and selfishness. where they are told they will not be happy unless they...
    This has been now seeped into areas it previously was not. more importantly it has seeped into the core of human nature, The family. The world has been turned upside down by these things. Family values in a worldly manner has changed. This will ultimately fail but not until after irreparable damage has been done. For the world we cannot stop this from happening. But for our families we have a chance. We have to fight the bad coming in and teach good basic principles.
This ultimately veered from what I had originally intended for this post. But ultimately I believe that it has gone to a better place. the place were true good change can happen.

February 11, 2014

A smart man admits he knows nothing.

I have been thinking a lot recently about the reprocusions of what we do. You see the results of others decisions through out history. we have had wars because of poor choices and saved lives because of well thought out ones.
What I have noticed is that much of the world. But from my view point America does not take into account the full reprocusions of a decision. We fight for things because we think the world has to be fair. This is not how things work. This is not how the world work. This is not how the universe works. Are you going to complain that there is no air in space and that it is so cold that you have to wear a special suit. Or are you going to accept that this is how things work.
When you look at the how the native americans reacted during war or even during the hunt it was not a joke or purly about personal and individual gain. It was about family and protecting the land. There was no political correctness to keep them from hurting someones feelings. it was always about respecting the earth. Even during the Hunt the native Americans gave thanks to the animal for giving its life.
As a world we do not understand that anymore. There are specific groups that still understand this to a point. But for us to become greater we need to work to respect the earth and more. No this does not mean we have to be hippies. But it does mean we need to take a wider view of what our choices make happen. You sneezing could easily be what triggers the next hurricane that kills thousands. Now this is not something that you can know for sure with our current knowledge. Maybe we will never know. But things like doing things to make a dollar. Why? What does money mean in the whole scheme of things. What are you doing to make things better. Are you making decisions based on making a quick buck or are you making decisions that will make the world a better place not only for you but for many generations to come.
This is where I will get political. Does our current American government have our long term interests in mind. In some cases, Yes, but in most cases No. We encourage people to do very little with thier lives. We should support our own in times of need. But we need to ket them provide for themselves.
The anchient proverb of give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Our current mentality does not support teaching a man to fish. Even our current educational system fails horribly at this. We do not teach for all the different personalities. We do not take into account all the different kinds of people. Yet they charge all sorts of amounts that drive people into uncontrollable and unessicary debt. Schools provide information you can get for free in many other places if not just a whole :ot cheaper. Then they charge thousands of dollars for your fishing licence after you already bought all the fishing equipment and in many cases you had to teach yourself since the teacher was not there or just didnt care.
We need to change our view of the world and universe. We need to take others into account. Not because of hurt feelings and political correctness. But because it is the best for all of us.