Art of asking questions

   I come across many people that are more pushing an agenda. But when they can't take their arguments further they use the "I was just asking a question" come back. 

   So the art of asking questions needs to be more clearly defined. First: question are always asking for clarification and understanding. They should never be based off your own personal assumptions, understanding, or agenda.

   Second: If the question is based off your own personal assumptions or other things. You then need to next move to clarification questions to understand what the other person is saying.  A good way to do that is to use the last few words they said or wrote down and put it as a question.  

  Third. Always ask a few questions to make sure you understood what the other person was saying. Then let them clarify if necessary.  

This is also a good way to build trust with someone. 

Never go into something with an agenda. Every negotiation will flow better if you make discovery questions first. 

Make the person feel heard. 

2024 is going to break us.

So McCarthy is just ousted. Trump in court today. Biden having impeachment hearings. Hunter Biden also in court. I am sure many many other things going on this week.

I hope I am wrong. But I believe we are just seeing the warm ups for 2024. 

2024 is an election year as was 2020. What do you remember of 2020. I remember a lot of crap going on.

I see more possible lockdowns blamed on Covid. I see bigger issues with Russia and China. The Ukraine war going into chaos.

I see if you don't comply with lockdowns you will be arrested. I see people's names being put on lists, either for the FBI or some other powerful group. I see the possibility of Nazi like interment camps. 

Not that all, or any of it will happen. But those that were called conspiracy theorists back in 2020 for just saying Masks did not work. Or refusing to take the vaccine. Many of them were attacked or had their lives ruined by the federal government policies. Democrat run cities arrested people for being in parks during the lockdowns.  Actually the safest place to be, out in the open air and sun. 

So prepare for a crazy or more appropriate word, insane 2024

prepare for many scare Tactics in 2024

2024 is going to be a crazy year, and the Democrats are gearing up for the fear mongering early. It's just the way they can have you watch one hand and ignore the other. 

They have already rigged the DNC election with blocking RFK. He can't campaign in some states. He has been denied secret service. Even though he has shown multiple threats against him. 

The DNC did the same election rigging to Bernie sanders for the past two elections. 

So we already know the DNC Riggs, its own elections.  

The Democrats do rigg primary elections, both presidential and state. 

With the many indictments against Trump the past year. They are actively working to make it impossible for him to run. They are even making up rules on the spot to try to stop him from running. So while they try to call Trump childish, thier actions of constantly changing the rules for their own benefit is very childish behavior.  

Now they are craying Russia Russia Russia. It is the start to a scare tactic they use. 

They will use their Ukraine war to pass along propaganda to us. They have kept the Ukraine war going just to have a reason to talk about it and blame Republicans when ever possible. But also put those connections to Russia interference always looming.

I believe in late 2024 you will see the Ukraine war resolved so that Biden can claim victory. It will look good to the voters and will be desined to make Biden look competent and strong. 

Nothing when it comes to the Democrats is reality right now. They are very much working to design your reality,  and their reality will lead to your oppression and mass poverty in 2025 if they keep power. 

So prepare for a crazy 2024. 

Government is our problem

So many people complaining about where the money is. But asking government to take a bigger roll in everything.  

Problem is the bigger government gets the bigger our problems get. 

We all have seen the stories. Some big company gets into financial struggle.  Suddenly the government comes in and pays off their debts.  

Well problem is, that is tax money, the people's money. 

Then you have people saying the government should help the people. Things like socialism.  But that always throughout history has ended in poverty and government collapse.  

What we really need is just a government that is basically a referee. They only give us the rules and make sure we play nice together.  They take a very limited role in the game. They do not give one side extra points if they fall behind.

Small government. Designed to help society grow and flourish. Where we the people make sure everyone is taken care of. That is why we have charities.  They are not designed to make people rich. But to help those in need. 

When government gets out of the way and just gives us basic rules to follow, society thrives. 

When government gets big. Society gets selfish. We get division and poverty. Poverty increases crime rates. When government gets big new crimes are made avaliable to break and people will break them. 

Our tax system is designed to keep us in poverty. Income taxes are an unfair tax on the people. They take a large chunk of your income to make government waste. 

Social security has proven its self to be insufficient and very poorly ran. Always being told there is not enough money. All this done by government. 

On top of that. Why do we have to fill out or taxes every year? Because government made a deal with some very big companies that make billions every year off us paying taxes. 

The system has been broken by the very people we voted in. The system as been broken by our votes. 

A Culture of broken Women

I do believe our current culture encourages and also celebrates broken women. 

Many of us possibly have heard how many women get into the porn industry. Generally it is them having a bad life. An abusive parent or parents. Generally a drug addiction comes into play. This leads to a bunch of other bad habits. If they don't die quickly it leads to habits that just are looking for attention. Which the porn industry provides plenty at a price. 

But now we see this spread to things like Onlyfans. Where women believe they are empowering themselves. Often showing highly suggestive things for a price. But I have also seen a few videos where those same women say they hate the men they talk explicitly to. 

But we now go another step down. Where young women, often still young teens, are feeling they are supposed to send explicit pictures to young men. All in hopes that some young men would like them. 

But all of this does nothing for society.  It actually tears it down. It encourages bad behaviors and only makes for bad relationships.

It's does nothing to help young men or older men to think of women of anything other than an object to play with. It makes women just the new shiny toy to be cast aside when it becomes too old and boring or a new toy comes along.

That society feeds off a strong trait that men like a visually pleasing woman. But also teaches men nothing. 

It teaches men to always move on and not truly care for women. It teaches women that men are just easy cash and a easy way to be pampered for a short while. 

It's a part of society that has pushed for abortions. So that women can still be promiscuous with no regrets. Not able to create those deeper human bonds with a new child. Also that she had no boundaries with a man. So one of them got bored and left. 

It teaches both genders to have no self respect. To not set boundaries with themselves or with others. Which in turn teaches self hate.

It causes emotional damage and always encourages us to pass blame onto someone or anything else. 

There are also many that celebrate it. Calling it "Women's empowerment" or even "Women's rights" many many parts of society have been corrupted by this virus. 

Many are now coming out to fight against it. But this war will be a long one. It has destroyed much of our society.

We have both Males and Females walking away from each other. Both pointing fingers at the other. Both blaming the other. Blaming the other for not doing enough or demanding too much. 

Both sides need to fix it. But we have to get the correct information to people. 

We have to teach men to be good men. We have to teach women to be good women.

We have to stop using Sex as a marketing tool. A tool to get easy money and temporary pleasure.

We have to re-learn as a society on how to gain deeper emotional connections. Connections deeper than the surface levels we currently subscribe to. Deeper connections that make it so a lifelong relationship not only can happen, but allows both sides to thrive. 

Deeper connections that will allow both when they intimately connect, not only be physical but also mentally and spiritually beneficial.

Their are couples that have that connection. They are the ones that should be praised and emulated. They are the ones we should learn from until it permeates society. That it becomes more natural.  That those ways are how we raise our children. 

It is then and only then, that humans can reach that next level of our evolution. 

How much am I worth to you?

How much is my life worth to you. 

That use to be a very generic question with no real answer. But in today's medical society it has become a very real question. 

With so many things that can hurt our health, thus our lives. It comes the question. How much would you be willing to pay to keep someone alive?

Now this question also becomes subjective to your access to money.

Also with that, the cost of medical protection has skyrocketed over the years. 

So the process of dying in the U.S.A. has become very very expensive.  You could have had a small inheritance for the kids. If you do not have good health insurance.  That inheritance is gone. 

So how much are your loved ones willing to pay to keep you around. 

It's a very difficult question to actually answer as you have many many unknowns.  Like how much is it going to cost and how much can you get approved for. In some cases the appropriate action might not even be offered because of your financial situation.  

So the system has already put a price on many people's heads. The system is cruel. 

The system has turned more into making some people very very rich. Over giving everyone quality Healthcare. 

But also I don't think many answers like socializing Healthcare will make it any better. 

Doctors need a system where they can truly care about each person's outcome. One where that person does not just become a number. Either a financial number or person served that day,month or year. 

Our system use to feel more like that. But the mega corporations and the general thing of Healthcare insurance which is by its very nature is run by the numbers. Which numbers by their very nature are unforgiving and can be very cruel.  

But you go into cost. The constant and often high inflation that happens with our money. Meaning you can do less with what you have. 

Meaning the state of our economy has also ruined what should be the most cherished times in our lives. 

The Gold in Golden years is for those treating you and not the person being treated. 

So now not only is it the Nature of the Health insurance and mega corporations.  But also you get to the federal level and the many many failures of the FED to actually control the money in the system. 

Every time the economy crashes there is a wealth transfer.  Every time the economy has a downturn. The poor get poorer. 

That is the fault of the FED. 

So that is the 3 bigger problems.  Mega Corporations,  Health Insurance and the FED. But what do they all have in common?..... Well the answer is. They are far removed from the problem.

They are the benefactors of a struggling economy. They are the benefactors of high inflation. They have traded and put high interest rates on your present to secure their future. 

But also I don't want to blame or attack the rich. Because many people do work hard for what they get. 

But what I say is. We also need to use the hard cruel number system to fix its self. Because the system is not in its current state, in a long term sustainable situation.  It is currently set up to fail on its own weight sometime in the future.  But when that happens no one will be financially available to help it. 

The Past is always there

I had a realization yesterday of how much my divorce still bugs me. Not that I want to go back to that relationship. But about the betrayal and story that went with how that relationship ended. We both were not perfect in the relationship. Although it was her that left and was the one that asked for the divorce. 

I was angry for a long time. The feeling of betrayal consumed me. Many of the false stories passed along hurt. 

Over the years I have mostly moved on. But yesterday a coworker who didn't know I was divorced asked me how long ago it was. I was almost shocked to say that was just over a decade ago. 

Mostly I don't think of the relationship other than to say "I don't want that" with things. I learned alot about what I want and don't want in a relationship. I learned alot about what I want in a woman. 

But I was surprised yesterday that I still hold some kind of sad emotion for that relationship. Some anger for that relationship. 

It's something I still need to work on and move on from. Some more closure I need to work on. Not the "I don't care" mentality.  But getting to the point where it does not bring up negative emotions.  

I usually don't talk about it. Or I can just joke a little about it. More light hearted stuff. I can even often generically analyze it, to say I like or don't like that kind of thing.

But sadly I still have some personal triggers from it. Triggers I need to fix or get help fixing.